We often hear that a first date can seem like a job interview and we should do everything within our power to make it much more enjoyable than that (and less nerve-racking, too). Sure, that’s all well and good, but don’t we have to ask the guy questions so we can get to know him? Doesn’t he expect us to ask him questions? And if that’s the case, then what questions should we be asking him?
«I always treat the first date like I’m talking to a friend I haven’t seen in a while. Let the conversation flow naturally without thinking of a set of questions. Try to pick up things on the initial «about me» and expand. If you’re really interested it will be easy.»
That’s such a nice, lovely thing to hear, and it’s especially nice since it’s the opposite of what we sometimes hear (that guys are «whipped» if they’re in a serious relationship or if they’re married)
This guy’s Reddit post is super helpful and also really comforting. We should definitely take his advice and approach the first date like this. He wants to feel like he’s talking to an old friend and like the conversation just works and there’s no stress or particular questions that we have to ask or answer. That seems so much more enjoyable than coming up with a list of questions ahead of time, so this is great to hear.
When we start dating someone new, we immediately wonder about the girls that they’ve dated before us. What were they like? Does he like us more than he liked them (and, of course, we want the answer to be «yes, of course»)? How many girlfriends has he had?
On the flip side, do guys want to know how many guys we’ve dated and do they care about our romantic history? It’s a question that has for sure crossed our minds.
According to this guy’s post on Reddit, some guys don’t actually want or need to know. And that makes sense. When we have this discussion with our new boyfriend, we just get jealous and upset when we hear about his romantic past, and it’s really not information that we need to have. Does it really make our lives better? Sure, some of us might want to know the basics of our boyfriend’s past love life, but we shouldn’t get too caught up. And we shouldn’t be surprised if, like this guy who posted on Reddit, our boyfriend doesn’t want to ask us for any details. He just might not care.
10 What Is A Guy’s Actual Perspective On Love?
Movies and songs tend to focus on how a girl feels when she falls in love. We’ve heard the cliche of picturing your wedding day on the first date or feeling like it’s love at first sight, but we tend to hear that it’s women who think that way, not men. So what’s the deal with men? How do they really feel about love and what is their perspective?
«It really is a crazy interesting process. My whole life and my interests were reevaluated when I fell in love for the first time and it is the one thing I am now extremely proud of and confident in now. «
«. Things may not have worked out, but the fact that it took falling in love to make me become the person I am most happy with was worth it.»
It’s good to know that some guys feel like falling in love allows them to become a good person and a person that they are proud to be.